Thursday, November 29, 2007

I am thankful for....

I have made it through another September.
September is the most difficult month, and the start of the most difficult time of year for me. September 29 was two years since my mother passed away.

Mom loved the holidays and always made them so special for all of us. She always cooked Thanksgiving dinner at her house and we would all be there together. Christmas was wonderful too. She cooked a wonderful dinner, and we all exchanged gifts.

There were always piles of gifts. She would find something that she had to have for one of her kids or grandkids,then she would have to buy something else for all the rest, because she never wanted to do more for one than all the others. We always told her that we didn't care about those things, but she always insisted.

Truth be told she just loved to do things for all of us.

Each year at this time, these memories, and more, come flooding back to me. It's painful, but not quite as painful as in the past two years. Now I am finding more comfort in her memories, and smiling more when I remember..

I am so thankful that she was my mom, and I have these wonderful memories of her. I am also thankful, that because of her, I discovered my high risk for cancer, and was able to lower that risk tremendously.

I am thankful for people like this; FORCE and this; Loreal Color of Hope , who educate women about their risks,and raise money for research to delete this horrible disease that steals away our mothers, grandmothers, wives, sisters, daughters...

This holiday season, take care of yourselves, and give yourself or a loved one the gift of knowledge.

Knowledge is very powerful.....


Blogger Laurie said...

It seems I've missed a lot over here as well. I must have somehow deleted you from my Bloglines. Bad Laurie! I'll be keeping in touch now.


11:23 AM, November 29, 2007  
Blogger YellowRose said...

What a beautiful tribute to your mom. I'm sorry you had to lose her to such a horrible disease, but as you say, knowledge is power. Thank you for sharing.

Michele sent me today!

3:39 PM, November 29, 2007  
Blogger Square1 said...

Thank you for visiting my site, and for the compliment on my short little verse. Congrats on making it through September. I know what it's like to have a hard time of the year, though for very different reasons. I am also glad that there are women out there who educate, because as you said, knowledge is power. I hope you have a lovely Holiday season.

3:49 PM, November 29, 2007  
Blogger Smiler said...

It's great that you've managed to turn the pain of your loss into appreciation for what you had and have now. Though I'm sure there are tough moments to go through. I wish you well. Michele sent me today.

9:30 PM, November 29, 2007  
Blogger Becky68 said...

Michele sent me tonight, what a lovely piece about your mother, I lost my grandmother last year on December 14th, she was like a mother to me & I miss her dearly, she did the same thing as you describe your mom doing, buying one thing for a grandchild & then going around to get something else for each of the others so no one would feel left out.

9:56 PM, November 29, 2007  

What a beautiful post. I am trying to show people how much I care through very thoughtful gift selections this year. I am really trying to be thoughtful to loved ones overall. Empathy is a very valuable gift.

10:06 PM, November 29, 2007  
Blogger utenzi said...

Michele sent me over.

I've been reading a lot lately about how much more information is available to relatives of cancer victims in terms of how vulnerable they themselves are to the disease. Until there's a cure, changing behavior is our best bet.

3:54 PM, November 30, 2007  
Blogger Mamacita (Mamacita) said...

What a lovely tribute to your mother! Our loved ones are never truly gone as long as we have the memories to warm our souls.

I'm here from Michele's, and bless you.

7:36 PM, November 30, 2007  
Blogger November Rain said...

here Via Michelle... Your mom sounds great

My nana was a lot like that

9:27 AM, December 01, 2007  
Anonymous MissMeliss said...

I'm so sorry for your loss, but yes, a lovely tribute.

And thanks so much for your Michele-sponsored visit to my site.

-- MissMeliss

11:54 AM, December 01, 2007  
Blogger Susan Helene Gottfried said...

Michele sent me today. Nice to meet you!

So nice to see that you are finally able to find comfort in your memories. I think this is what they mean when they say that time heals -- it takes away the worst of the pain and lets us see the beauty again.

I hope the holidays bring you lots of peace and comfort, and that you feel your mom's presence often.

12:40 PM, December 01, 2007  
Blogger Blond Girl said...

Hi. Michele sent me. I understand about September. My father died four years ago on September 27th of lung cancer. My birthday is the 30th, when the funeral director wanted to hold the service. My mother refused, saying she wouldn't have my birthday forever connected with laying him to rest. It was a great gesture, but it still is connected. You never lose the ones you love... or the dates, the memories and all the significant nuances of meaning around them.

11:39 PM, December 01, 2007  
Blogger Blond Girl said...

Hi again! Thanks for visiting - and for the compliment on my blog. I like your tradition idea; I suggested something very similar to that for our next family Christmas.

To answer your question, no, I didn't design my blog template... I'm so bad with HTML that I signed up for blogroll and have never used it! My best friend, Geekwif ( designed it for me, using photos and elements that I found on the web - such as the tulip (my favorite flower) photo and bullet point, and the colors and fonts I requested. I love it... it's completely me and I'm grateful she made it.

Illini Heaven, too, huh? You better believe I want to come home! Are you in Chambana?

12:04 AM, December 02, 2007  
Blogger gemma said...

Michele sent me and man I can relate to your loss. My two brothers died in September and my father in November and my Mother - she died on Mothers' Day in 1999 - she started the parade. We are alike in the fact that we had wonderful mothers who sacrificed for their kids and did it with joy. It's such a good thing to have the memories that you do because those will never be taken away. Your blog is such a powerful tool. Congratulations. Your mother, I'm sure, is proud of you.

4:37 PM, December 02, 2007  
Blogger kenju said...

It appears that your mom left a wonderful legacy to you and your family. Michele sent me.

9:27 PM, December 02, 2007  

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