what do you say.......
Mom has been having a terrible time with the chemo treatments. They're supposed to have all of this wonderful medication these days that keep you from being sick all the time. So far nothing has worked for mom.
Yesterday and last night were very bad and she ended up at the clinic for IV medications and fluids.
When she got home she was feeling much better but told me that if this is how she is going to feel, they will have to convince her there is hope. Otherwise, she is done with the treatments.
My initial reactions was to tell her she can't give up. It's not allowed. But she is suffering so much.
She is weak, and in pain. She is confined to home when she used to be so active. And now chemo is adding this terrible sickness.
I can't stand to see her suffer.
But I'm not ready to let her go.
Yesterday and last night were very bad and she ended up at the clinic for IV medications and fluids.
When she got home she was feeling much better but told me that if this is how she is going to feel, they will have to convince her there is hope. Otherwise, she is done with the treatments.
My initial reactions was to tell her she can't give up. It's not allowed. But she is suffering so much.
She is weak, and in pain. She is confined to home when she used to be so active. And now chemo is adding this terrible sickness.
I can't stand to see her suffer.
But I'm not ready to let her go.
posted by jsdaughter at 11:48 PM
4 Comments:
My thoughts and prayers are with your family
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I know what you mean. I just went through this with my girlfriend, she lost her mother to cancer when she was only 12 and has been waiting for it to come for her since. When it finally did it ravaged her. She fought for only about 6 months and when they told her it had spread she gave up. She told me that she was not going to live to host a disease and put up with the sick, weak way the medicine (chemo) made her feel. She stopped treatment and I lost her just over a month ago. I still get angry sometimes that she didn't try harder to fight but mostly I try to honor that she wanted to find a way to stop the pain and move to a happier, painless, place.
I went to chemo with my own mother today, I am sorry you're (and your mom, of course)having to go through all this.
Is she in pain, or nausea? The chemo shouldn't be causing pain. If it's nausea, has she tried different anti-emetics, or just one?
Unfortunately, the weakness is something that happens and there isn't much to do about it, unless it is because she is becoming anemic. If that is so, there is an injection to help her build red blood cells and keep her on her chemo schedule.
The pain SHOULD be controlled with pain meds until the chemo is able to reduce tumor size (if there is still a tumor), therefore eliminating the pain associated with it.
If she is having nausea and anti-emetics aren't working, has she tried gralla suppositories? These are made up by the pharmacy on a as-needed basis. They work really well and are better if the patient cannot keep anything (even meds) down.
I know that you are probably not looking for advice, just a place to vent, so feel free to ignore me.
Just know that everyone who reads here is praying for recovery for her.
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